Secrets, Lies & Chat

Friday, December 24, 2004

Update on Secrets, Lies & Chat - the book

It's Sunday morning, 18 December, 1.10 am, in Sydney Australia and I'm here working in my blog. Time to update news on the book. I have now ordered 1000 books and paid for them. 300 will be distributed around the USA and Canada to media, publishers, bookstores, reviewers etc and 700 will be airfreighted to me. 200 are review books and 500 I will be selling online and personally and all will be autographed if requested. I expect the books sometime in January and the BIG release will be April. What a long journey this has been, and an expensive one. I estimate at the end of the road and at release date I will have expended close to $30K to get this book into stores and for sale on the internet.

Advance copy orders for the book can be placed on

My very own copy is supposedly soon on the way to me via snail mail from the USA. Mind you, it's the only free copy I will receive. I guess I might sleep with it or even wear it around my neck lol.

I've been working away solidly in my spare time away from my paid job and I'm proud to say I have a high profile on search engines for key words related to my work. I've expanded my writing into other areas besides chat and have some of my work, well all of it really except for the book, published on and also on my own website I have now clocked up over 5000 visitors to my authorsden webpages and I am very pleased with the following I seem to have attained.

I've been fortunate to have gained some very funny stories from two chat friends that I have built my own fiction around, and have created some short stories that I'm proud of. Three of the stories involve Trev and his dogs and the other story is about a special wink* man in my life Bryan, who appeared to me to be so straight when we first met. He finally owned up to a very colourful past and I'm having the time of my life writing about his escapades. And I thought I was bad??? lol. So if you get a chance go to authors den and read about Bryan, An Englishman in Australia in the 60s. So far I only have one Bryan story but I'm working on a long one now on a lot of his life in Australia.

Bryan is a very talented man who designs and makes handmade wooden toys for children. He also hand paints them. We talk about my writing a book of funny short stories with Bryan illustrating it with funny pictures. Bryan has some wonderful toys and puzzles for children 1-6 so if anyone is interested in buying some real Australian wooden treasures for littlies please visit to view some of his work. Click on 'next' above the large pic and the next pic will appear with details. You can contact Bryan at

I have had a local press interview and gasp* photo shoot and the article appeared in one of my local newspapers on 1 December. You will find this article posted on the websites also. I was proud that the paper considered I was newsworthy enough to give me 1/2 page in colour.

I have a television interview lined up for February with Joy from Joys World on Channel 31. Joy has a book section in her show and will feature me there.

Things are moving along. I'm working as hard as I can and keep pounding the editors at the SMH with my views, none of which have been published. Well one was, online. I also hit Poynter Online regularly and my views are posted on there as I write them.

I'm now looking forward to Christmas with my family and following closely behind that, some leisure time with Bryan and his daughter Jennifer, who are visiting me for a week or so in Sydney. New Year this year will be the best I've had for a long, long time and Bryan will have a birthday while he is in Sydney, so another excuse for a celebration.

I hope you all have a wonderful happy and merry Christmas and a safe and rollicking good New Year. 2005 is shaping up to be a year of excitement for me and a year of perhaps big changes in my life. I'll keep the blog posted.

Wednesday, December 22, 2004

Channel 7 Today Tonight

Today, Wednesday 22 December 2004 - 10.55 pm Sydney Australia

I had an email from Greg Tingle today (my PR agent Mediaman Australia) re Channel 7 'Today Tonight'. He advised that I would be contacted by a lady from the show, which I was.

A segment is being planned on online dating and they were looking for people to talk to about experiences (not so good ones) using online dating sites. I was asked if I had any contacts they could approach and of course, I do know a number of people who have had bad experiences, including myself. However I don't imagine any of them would want to talk about their experiences so I explained that I couldn't put them in touch with anyone. What I know I know because of who I am and because those people trust me to be confidential. They talk to me because I have had similar events in my life to theirs so I can understand how they feel and why.

We talked about various aspects of online danger. The lady I spoke to appeared to think that bodgie photos were the big cheat/lie thing going on. I told her that as far as I was concerned bodgie photos were not much of an issue as once you met someone for real you would know that the photo was realistic or not and so you would just walk I imagine. I explained that in all the meetings I had with men I met from either chat or online dating, I had really never been sent a photo that wasn't close to the truth. I expanded my comments by telling her my views on the real dangers and the biggest lies and they are the "I'm divorced, I'm single, I'm separated". These statements are hard to disprove and are very much more dangerous than any bodgie photo.

I was then asked if I would consider being interviewed by 'Today Tonight'. Only one answer to that, whilst shaking in my shoes, and that was 'yes'. I explained that as I had a book about to be released, with my name on it, and my photo was already featured online and in press articles, I really had no reason to hide out. Exposure on TV is important to my agenda to raise awareness to the dangers growing online for adults and children alike. The conversation ended with a possibiity i could get that interview and the possibility I won't. It is all up to how they see their segment going; whether they want truism or fantasy. I'll keep updating progress.

Saturday, December 18, 2004

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